Perfection? The state and quality of being perfect. Perfect? means “complete and correct in every way, of best possible type or without fault ( Cambridge dictionary).

Oxford dictionary defines ‘perfect’ as one “having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be”, “to be free from any flaw or defect in condition or quality; faultless” .

We are a generation lured by the desire to be perfect. Perfect in how we look and in all we do. Worst of all, we try to seem perfect in the eyes of others. This honestly can be choking as truly, no one is without fault or is ‘complete and correct in every way’.

Attainment of perfection is too much of a burden for anyone to carry. Thinking about it? Whose standards are you living up to? The definition of perfection to each is different, so to live to please all around you is simple madness and robs you of your peace. It is a race you can start but never finish. I have been there so many times and still catch myself walking in that bubble. Not only are you constantly exhausted, you constantly get disappointed in yourself because you are chasing an ‘unachievable’ goal.

More so, to be flawed is to be perfectly human and beautiful. To accept ones flaws is too embrace humility and humanity. Not only does knowing you do not have it all together (nor does anyone on earth), gives you the space to make mistakes, to learn from them and to grow, it gives you a chance to learn from others and gives you the ability to forgive easily. Remember, to err is human, to forgive is divine.

As said by Dr Steve Maraboli “There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”

Be in touch with your imperfections and do not be scared of it. It is totally okay not to have it all together, no one does. Mary down the road may look like she does have everything together, but the closer the rays, the more the scars show.

More so, funny enough, the more you embrace your imperfections and learn humility, the better you get in life generally. Not only do you grow at what you know you are deficient at, you learn to forgive yourself and forgive others for the same.

So Switch it up a bit. I believe in excellence and not perfection. Excellence is the quality of “being outstanding or extremely good”. I am not for mediocre. I believe in doing your best possible in all you place your hands on. Having a mind for excellence give you the understand to give your best and not be lazy whilst still giving you the ease of knowing that when your best fails, you don’t have to kill yourself or feel less than you are.

So Switch it up a bit. I believe in excellence and not perfection. Excellence is the quality of “being outstanding or extremely good”. I am not for mediocre

This post goes out to every woman being that yesterday was International Women’s Day. We as women, strive for perfection a lot. From being and staying beautiful, to being woman enough as everyone defines it, taking care of your family and raising children the society considers to be respectful, educated and refined. In all, we must know that it is okay to have pitfalls. It is okay to get a few wrinkles here and there or to not look as fit as the woman beside you. That does not make you any less of a woman, it makes you, YOU.


Finally, free your mind! Life is short and perfection is boring:).
Breathe. Nevertheless, ones imperfection should not be excuse to stay down and refuse to grow. Wen you fall, get back up again. We all have what we are good and exceptional at. Strengthen your strengths and work on your flaws. Strengthen what you can, with what you have and move on.

Mimaj
xjel@ymail.com
I am a graduate of Law and French Language from Swansea University, United Kingdom. I have always loved writing, researching, adventure and learning. I am bilingual and appreciate a multicultural environment. I have a heart for development work and human rights.

4 thoughts on “Perfect Imperfection”

  1. Word! 👏👏

    Many of us are trying to live other people’s lives forgetting that the people we want to be like also carry their own flaws. Our flaws are not to be hidden, and this is what we often do so that we look perfect in the eyes of others. To be very honest perfectionists are the most annoying set of humans ever.

  2. Very true words.
    It’s not the easiest thing to accept yourself in all your flaws, especially bodily ones, because we have social media always reminding us of how the ‘ideal’ girl is meant to look.
    And it’s tiring trying to live up to unrealistic ideals. I totally agree with you. We should strive for excellence and not perfection really.
    Life is meant to be lived. Like you said, perfection is boring.

    1. Babe I get you. Don’t let the world define what beauty should be to you. You are beautiful in every way. Of course, its fine to admire the good and beauty in others but learn of your own beauty and do not compare. I’ve come to see that it is a journey and we have to continuously remind ourselves who we are. No one can do you, the way you can do you. Own that. Love you.. <3 <3 <3

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